This article was inspired by How Your Subpersonalities Prevent Self Fulfillment
Do you feel these inner voices hampering your abilities? Understand where these thoughts stem from, by understanding your subpersonalities.
We all have these inner voices, these subtle yet ever-present voices that dwell within our minds. Unfortunately, for many, these voices become self-defeating and sabotaging, which plays a huge influence in hampering their capabilities.
Since a lot of us don’t understand the source of these voices, they become one of the major obstacles in self-actualization and fulfillment.
It is no wonder that a lot of us can’t accomplish anything since we become our biggest critic, which creates a form of paralytic fear that prevents us from taking that one step that is needed for exploration and expansion.
People who experience such impediments need to understand that we are not our own enemies. And with just a little understanding of where these thoughts are stemming from, we can start to counteract them and start living more fulfilling lives.
The Major Subpersonalities
The concept of subpersonalities was extensively explored by Edmund Bourne in his book, Anxiety and Phobia. He explains the concept in such a simple way that, literally, anyone can understand the source of their fears and phobias.
The road to self-fulfillment is not difficult at all. All you needs is a slight of understanding, as most of our problems stem from ignorance, and a little bit of inside knowledge.
There are four major subpersonalities and all of them play a huge role inducing anxiety within in:
- The Worrier
- The Critic
- The Victim
- The Perfectionist
The following is a simple explanation of these personality types and how they cripple us. Hopefully, once you understand them, you can begin to stave off these dysfunctional thoughts.
1. The Worrier
The worrier within us worries for us and creates fear and anxiety. Whenever we think about doing something new, our thoughts become negative and the only thing we can focus on is failure.
This habit promotes fear, anxiety, and even panic attacks in those who are more susceptible to them.
All one really needs to do is stop over-estimating the worst possible situation and, instead, to focus on the positive, and the achievement of your goals.
2. The Critic
The critic within us is responsible for promoting low self-esteem. It causes us to create extremely judgmental opinions of ourselves. It causes us to enter the pessimist’s loop, anticipating only the worst and focusing only on our weaknesses, while completely filtering out our strengths.
If one simply learns to stop being their own enemy and believe in themselves, then it wouldn’t be that difficult to focus on your strengths — the right attitude is a must.
3. The Victim
The victim within us makes us create these feelings of helplessness and make us feel completely hopeless, and in the process it promotes depression.
It is that feeling that makes us feel that we are completely incapable and unworthy. It perpetuates our own belief that our situation is simply irreversible. And in the process, it creates new mental barriers and obstacles that deprive us from achieving self-fulfillment.
Remember to never say never. If you can’t, ponder on the thought, and let me assure you that you will find that you can and then you will.
4. The Perfectionist
The perfectionist within us pushes us to do more and better. It creates the feeling that our work is never good enough , promotes stress and can even cause us to burnout.
These feelings usually stem from external influences, causing us to constantly compare with others and never feel satisfied with your effort and work — which creates incredible pressure on yourself.
The first step is to fight your inclination to compare yourself with others. Understand that we are all different and such comparisons are completely redundant.
Transcending Beyond Your Subpersonalities
The first step in overcoming these self-inducing thoughts is to recognize which of these subpersonalities accurately describe you. Since all of us have these personalities within us with different degree of dominance, it is completely possible to have two equally dominant subpersonalities.
One of the best approaches is to stop overthinking and just do what you feel. This will allow you to restrict your habit of over-analyzing every situation, though it will only serve you in the short-term.
In the long term, you will need to develop a command over your thoughts through the attainment of self-discovery, self-awareness, self-love, self-understanding and involution.