Contrary to popular belief, we do not have one soul mate. A soul mate is someone we develop a soul connection with – we become attached to them and love them wholeheartedly.
However, the feelings you have with your soul mate aren’t limited to the one person whom you consider as your soul mate at the moment.
Today you’ve met someone you consider as your soul mate; tomorrow it’ll be someone else. Granted, it’s rare. Regardless, it is plausible.
A twin flame, on the other hand, is one person. Odds of finding your twin flame are rather slim because he is essentially your mirror. Not physically, but mentally.
You two are one flame divided amongst two physical embodiments. Your likes are their likes; your choices mirror their choices. Even your flaws are also reflected.
Stages of a twin flame relationship:
You would think that living side by side with your twin flame is the perfect fairy tale, but it rarely is. The phrase, ‘opposites attract’ is highly applicable when it comes to living with your twin flame. There is no balance.
Everything is countered to the point of it becoming overpowering and suffocating.
A twin flame relationship is magical – it’s spontaneous and destructive at the same time. You go from being on a pedestal to being so low you can’t even comprehend it.
A twin flame relationship occurs in stages, and one of those phases is the ‘Runner and Chaser’ stage. Coincidentally, if you’re reading this, then you’re the chaser, and your partner is the runner.
This stage isn’t unique to just you; it occurs for all twin flame relationships. Factors, prominently ego, come into play and one partner decides to build a wall.
Meanwhile, the other half of the relationship tries to tear down that wall. However, unless the cause is eradicated, you two will be at a standstill because for every wall you break they build a new one.
Twin flame runner ego:
As mentioned above, twin flames are mirrors of one another, and the other person replicates every aspect of their personality. However, since the relationship is inconsistent, one partner may feel a few feelings more intensely than the other. Ego is one of those feelings.
While some female twin flames develop a strong sense of ego, it is quite often the male partner that develops the ego in the relationship.
There are many reasons why this happens. It usually stems from the pressure of keeping up with societal norms. Being the man in the relationship, they feel an evident need to keep up with the image stereotyped for them.
Balancing the twin flame runner ego
While ego tends to destroy even the strongest of bonds, it can be balanced by the effort the other partner puts in. For this to happen, you need to put behind your own ego.
This can be an incredibly difficult thing on your part since you’re not the one with the issue here, they are. However, that’s not how you’ll resolve the matter.
You need to realise that their ego stems from something much less superficial than societal norms. They feel as though they need to enhance their ego to better something – possibly even this relationship.
Obviously, they’re wrong. They just don’t see it yet. Fighting fire with fire only creates a bigger fire. You need to hear them out, listen to what they have to say. Share their problems, give them solutions.