I think it’s important to note that the runner and chaser stage can happen in any soul connection and not just twin flames, so the runner and chaser dynamic is not a specific sign of a twin flame connection.
Some people say that it can’t be a twin flame connection if they are running away but that is simply not true – twin flames are the direct mirror of self and therefore carry the most intimidating lessons about facing the self. It is natural for many (not all) twin flame connections to go through this stage.
Typically, it is the masculine energy that is classed as the runner and the feminine the chaser. But they can both switch roles and in truth both the runner twin flame and the chaser twin flame are in fact runners. The runner twin flame runs from the connection and the emotions and from self, and the chaser twin flame runs from self healing by expecting the other to fill in their voids. Both are running from healing themselves.[wp_ad_camp_4]
It’s important to note that mostly this is an unconscious pattern on the part of both the runner and chaser twin flames. It is part of the twin flame’s lessons to bring their unconscious patterns into conscious awareness and then they can stop the cycle and make a lot of progress in doing so.
It is easy to get caught up in the victim mode and take it very personally when your twin flame is running from you, but really, they are running from themselves.
They are running from feeling their emotions because any intense emotion, whether love or fear, will bring up past emotions which haven’t been processed. The masculine in particular will be very afraid of opening that can of worms because they often find it difficult to process their emotions in general.
There is a fear that the intense emotions will overwhelm them and sweep them away into destruction. So the runner twin flame (and the chaser) avoids looknig inwards and feeling their emotions at all costs. The chaser often focusses on blaming the runner in an attempt to avoid taking responsibility for looking within and creating their own happiness.
Runners are running away from what they see reflected back at themselves through you. They run because they worry that they cannot heal themselves, cannot change, that they will fail, that they do not deserve love. Running can be described at a refusal to communicate effectively or at all, hot and cold behavior, keeping the chaser at arms length, cutting all ties, denying there is a connection, pushing you away out of self-sabotage, acting appallingly to make you become the runner, staying in safe relationships with others, being consumed with addictions to distract them etc.
But there is hope. Twin flame runners are running through ego fears. But twin flame connections force a person to come into their soul consciousness no matter how much they try and fight it. Eventually, because the soul is infinitely stronger than the ego, they will be too exhausted to fight their higher self which is bringing them into their truth. There will come a stage when the ego will no longer be strong enough to have control and the higher self will take over the steering. This will be the stage when the runner feels that running from self is just too tiring and they will be sick of living in their fears and illusions. The fears will become a burden and they will feel strongly pulled to let go of this heavy baggage.
When a chaser is running after the runner twin flame, it only makes the runner run more because they are trying to force the runner to face themselves before they are ready. Also, the chaser is full of fear which is a dense energy and is an illusions, therefore it is pushing the runner away because reunion cannot happen in such a low vibration. Often chaser twin flames are running from facing their pain from past abandonment issues. The runner twin flame is running also from being abandoned because they fear history repeating itself from their own past.
Chaser twin flames can be very demanding, critical, intense, clingy and this only serves to make the runner twin flame feels as though they are expected to fill a bottomless pit which they cannot fill. A runner twin flame cannot make a chaser twin flame whole if the chaser (or the runner) is not whole within themselves first.
The roles can switch and then the balance gets reversed. Either way, as long as the twin flames are engaging in these unhealthy behaviors, the balance is always skewed one way of another. They are out of balance, out of harmony. This is when twin flames describe the roller coaster. But you can get off this ride. You can observe your own role in this and put a stop to it Then your twin flame will be forced to reflect that balance back to you.
So what do you do as a chaser? Let your runner twin flame run!
Give them the space they need to exhaust themselves off their own bakc and not because of you. Let them have the space to realise they are unhappy because of themselves and not because of your “nagging” or “clinging”. It could take years before they truly awaken, but if that is the case, then that is what the universe has planned and there needs to be an acceptance of that. Everything happens the way it should.
Your higher self wants you to step off the roller coaster and spend this time looking deeply within yourself, because chasers have a lot to heal too. Many chasers mistakenly think it’s only the runner who needs to heal.
There is no need to run or to chaser in your twin flame connection.
You are supposed to reconnect with yourself, love yourself and create that wholeness within. Your raising vibration will travel through your merged chakras , heart chakra and cause your twin flame to raise in vibration automatically.
However, you need to raise your vibration for your own sake and not just to be with your twin flame. The universe will know if you are only trying to achieve a higher vibration just to get your twin flame back to fill in voids. Do it for yourself, yourself truly comes first.
- This is perhaps the secret hidden within The Secret…To know…to let go and to flow. When we do this we come naturally from a place called our Heart Center.
- (http://www.applythelawofattraction.com/how-manifest-from-the-heart/)
- (http://www.applythelawofattraction.com/using-heart-energy/)
- This is where manifestations actually take place; where they leave the body (energetic field) as thought forms/beliefs and become imprinted onto the field, ready for The Universe to do its thing. It is as if you hit your proverbial cosmic gong of intent, setting a resonance for that which you most desire. And with belief behind it coming from your heart center, The Universe has no choice but to answer you back in a physical manifestation of your desire.
- This is called matching frequency and holds more relevance in science than spirituality, believe it or not.
- Like attracts like, so when you are resonating with what you desire, that which you desire is finally allowed an opened channel into your life. You have removed any false beliefs that formerly got in the way such as thinking you didn’t deserve it or that you are not good enough. One successful manifestation after removing such a block can act as quite an impressive demonstration on just how powerful our thoughts really are.
- And with that comes the knowing that with each thought, we truly are creating our realities. And from that moment on, we are never the same. We begin to choose our thoughts with awareness, attention and the utmost care. Almost as if we knew some sort of secret.
Ideas are impressed on the subconscious through the medium of feeling.
No idea can be impressed on the subconscious until it is felt, but once felt – be it good, bad or indifferent – it must be expressed.
The positive thinking approach is like a bad salesman, trying to talk you into something.
The Feeling It Real approach to life – is like noticing what you want to change in the physical world – then withdrawing to your inner workshop – to create what you want in the world
Feeling is the one and only medium through which ideas are conveyed to the subconscious.
- Therefore, the man who does not control his feeling may easily impress the subconscious with undesirable states. By control of feeling is not meant restraint or suppression of your feeling, but rather the disciplining of self to imagine and entertain only such feeling as contributes to your happiness.
- “The time it takes your assumption to become fact, your desire to be fulfilled, is directly proportionate to the NATURALNESS of your feeling of already being what you want to be… of already having what you desire.” – Neville Goddard
What if your twin flame is a woman
Does it happen that sometimes the runner will run from the connection and then actually MARRY someone else? Because my ex-fiancé has. I was certain he was my twin, and he actually said the same thing. We were very connected in all ways, and even though all physical communication with him ceased last February, we are still very connected psychically. To the extent that even though I had had no communication from anyone about it, I turned to my friend on the day he got married, and said to her, “Oh my goodness, he just got married!” She looked at me like I was nuts and said, “What? How do you know.” I told her I just knew. And later found out from a friend it was true. I know running can be part of the process, but would a runner actually marry someone else? Very quickly after running? (Like a year later?) Just very confused…
Your runner can definitely get married to someone else. It’s because they have not realised that they are whole already. This new relationship will definitely teach your twin what the soul has to learn. Meanwhile you start loving your higher self you will see your twin also realising his higher self as whole. I know ” it’s all easily said than done” but this is the process. The Universe will support you always in all ways. Patience is the only medicine now. Best wishes