Twin Flame pain is hard to understand. The reason for it evades even most of the people experiencing it.
Most of us think that this special karmic relationship is supposed to be a perfect fairy tale with few if any bumps in the road.
But hurt is a part of this relationship. It shouldn’t be a primary part, but it will play a larger role than it would in a non-karmic relationship.
The reason for this is multi-faceted.
There are many ways in which pain will have an effect on both of you as you progress in your relationship.
You might imagine it is primarily a concern during the Separation (or Runner and Chaser) stage, but in reality, it will play a role in every step and stage the twin flames will go through.
Understanding Twin Flame Pain
The nature of pain in the Twin Flame relationship is unique in that it is purely constructive.
During Separation, a lot of issues will come up. You will move from a pleasant honeymoon period into a crisis or separation of some sort.
At the same time, you will experience a lot of pain and hurt feelings that you will feel comes from your twin.
Sometimes it will be feeling their pain, and that hurts you. Sometimes it is a pain inflicted on you by others.
You and your twin are together to help clear these issues and free your souls from baggage, ready for the next stage.
Of course, the pain is activated by this crisis and the uncovering of other pain that lay dormant in you until now.
But your partner is not the source of it. The source of the upset is within you. The hurt that you experience actually comes from your own past wounds.
The power of your close energetic connection has brought up within you the events from your past (and from your past lives) that have left negative energy in your aura.
It often manifests as anger and blame, neither of which are of much use to you.
Your past wounds rear their ugly heads at this time for a good reason.
In order to move forward with this relationship, you need to put aside all of the negativity from your past – but to put it aside, you first need to face and conquer it.
The problem with resorting to anger and blame – however understandable it might be – is that it is misdirected.
Whenever you feel these emotions towards your partner, it is as a result of your inner self needing healing.
Besides, by putting these emotions onto your partner, you could be causing yourself more misery in the long run.
Twin Flame Pain Is Shared
When you put your anger and blame onto your Twin Flame, you are causing them pain.
Because of the close connection you share, it will always come back to you.
It is primarily an energy relationship, and because of this, your respective auras have a considerable effect on each other.
When you express negative energy emotions, you are putting more negative energy into their aura, which compounds with yours.
In this way, you could be poisoning your relationship.
It is also entirely against what you should be doing with the power of your connection.
You are supposed to be using it in order to bring you closer together so that you can achieve Ascension – you are not supposed to be using it to punish them.
At the end of the day, you need to understand that the pain you are experiencing is not just yours, but belongs to both of you.
There are common pain symptoms within this relationship that many people experience.
Are you experiencing any of the following?
- Anxiety about the future.
- Soul Shock.
- You feel old problems coming back to haunt you.
- People from your past are getting back in touch, even though it is unwanted.
- Obsessive thoughts and behaviors.
- Jealousy, especially if rooted in fear of losing your partner to someone else.
- You develop paranoia, especially the feeling that your partner is trying to cause you this hurt.
Avoiding or alleviating these symptoms should be very important to you – and central to your spiritual practice.
Dealing With Twin Flame Pain
Understanding what you are going through is one thing, but actually dealing with the day to day of it is a whole different challenge.
It’s all well and good knowing what you are dealing with, but if you don’t know how to solve it then it isn’t of much use.
Prevention is always preferable, so in order to keep your relationship balanced and (relatively) pain-free, you should maintain healthy communication and a shared spiritual outlook.
Set time aside every week or so to sit down and discuss any issues that have come up.
It is especially useful both for those with high levels of conflict and for those who find it difficult to express themselves, as it provides a scheduled time for battle, but in a safe space.
But you can’t prevent everything. Those past wounds will come up at some time or another and you need to be ready to deal with them.
First, you need to engage in aura healing and energy cleansing.
Keeping your chakras clear from blockages and keeping on top of negative energy build-up is essential for dealing with trauma from the past.
When people feel pressured by other people to address their own problems, they end up not dealing with the issues but instead try to alleviate the pressure.
In other words, you will push them away and hinder their healing by putting pressure on them.
Instead, you should be supporting them. Don’t tell them what you think their problems are, help them to see them on their own.
Rather than telling them how to solve their problems, help them to see how you have solved similar problems.
Above all, you need to be patient.
It can be difficult when you are in pain, but you may have to wait for your partner to deal with their problems at their own pace.
Use this as an opportunity to practice patience.
Patience is a practical skill that will serve you well throughout your relationship – and the course of your life!